I watched two programmes on television this week, where mums ended up putting so many people first, before their needs, the consequences were tragic:
• Weight gain
• Burn out
• Panic attacks
Mums (and I’m talking to myself here too), we only have 24 hours in a day, and it’s the same daily quota for every person on the planet. No matter how much we cram into the day, we cannot gain an extra hour, but you may lose yourself along the way…
Make time to put yourself first once in a while:
• Read a book – when my children (and my husband, for that matter) see me with my specs on and a book in my hand; they know that unless it’s urgent, this is one of Mummy’s ‘Do not disturb’ moments.
• Sit in the library and read a magazine. As much as I hint to family and friends that I would like a subscription to Good Housekeeping, it has yet to happen. When I take my daughters to the library, I pick up the latest copy and have a good read.
• Get a manicure – My local salon does manicures for £10 and pedicures for £20. If this is still a luxury, you feel you can do without, save up for it. I’ve got a little treats jar, where I put loose change each week. When it builds up to £20, off to the salon, I will go.
• Get an early night, once in a while. The dishes can wait and so can the washing.
• Sometimes, just a coffee in a café on your own, is all it takes to unwind, gather your thoughts and get on with the rest of the day.
I am ashamed to say that I was once given a voucher for a day at a spa. The voucher was valid for a year; I kept putting off going, because I was ‘so busy’, until the voucher expired. I’ve recently been blessed with another voucher for another spa date. I’ve learned the hard way, so I’m booking a date in 2015, for a well-deserved treat.
I’d love to hear your tips for indulging yourself as a mum. The more creative and inexpensive; the better.