I took some time out, recently. I started to get frustrated, because things weren’t moving forward in the pace I wanted them to move, and I felt there were constant setbacks and drawbacks.
It was only when I took some time out and poured my heart out to God, that I realised that I needed to come to Him, to ask what I needed to take my life (and all that this encompasses) and my business forward. I hit upon asking for Provision for the Vision. Simply put, asking God for exactly what I need for my life vision. Here’s what I noted down…
Permission to dream
I never want to be in a place or a state of mind, where I cannot dream. Our dreams and desires are what inspire us to keep moving forward. The size of our dreams can help us to plan and grow. Some dreams are so BIG that they seem like they will never be fulfilled, but it’s all about taking little steps each day.
I also need to surround myself with people who allow me to dream (remember that they do not give you permission to dream, but they make room and space, and create an environment where you can dream freely). Not everyone will get your dream or vision, but make sure you are around people who will encourage you, even when they can’t see it.
Provision for my children
My family are an important part of my life. I never want my business to take priority over my children. I admit that there may be times when we don’t get to go to the park, because I’m on a deadline, or another mum may do school pick-up; but I need balance in the things I say yes to, when it comes to my children.
It’s important that I:
• get to spend time with them
• have fun with them
• know what’s going on in their lives
My business must shape around my children (hence why I am writing this while the house is quiet, because everyone is asleep…We’re off the cinema, as a half-term treat, this morning, so I must crack on).
I don’t always ‘say yes to the dress’
I don’t want to be weighed down by negative influences on my life such as debt. When you are in debt, you OWE someone or something. I’ve made a plan to look at my finances in a different way, which means that I don’t always ‘say yes to the dress’ and will be (can be and should be) satisfied with what I have; and prioritise settling what I owe, as quickly as I can. I want to be in a position where finances, or the lack of funds, do not hold me back from progressing, or blessing others. I’ve also realised that my relationship with finances, or the way that I handle money, is an example I am setting for my children. I certainly do not want them to make the mistakes I have made. It’s one of the best principles I can pass on to them, if I can get this right.
Also, with financial freedom, I want to be in a position where what I do is not bound by the amount I earn. I do a fair amount of volunteering in the community. If I suddenly have to say no to projects because, I need to ‘bring home the bacon’, my work/life balance will be off kilter.
Provision to take care of myself
Sometimes I am so busy, I get to the late afternoon and realise that I haven’t eaten properly, or my stress levels are hitting a high-note. There are some evenings when I’ve overdone it, where my husband becomes the parent and tells me that I need to stop what I’m doing, have a bath and get to bed. So I need to make room and give myself permission to take care of myself. As a wives and mothers, we keep the ship afloat. We know when:
• there is the last roll of toilet paper in the house
• the date of the next playdate
• your mother-in-law’s birthday is
• the date of that big pitch or presentation
• the bills need to be settled
• the school concert date
But sometimes, we’re so busy looking after other people, that we neglect ourselves. So, I’ve been taking some little steps to look after myself:
• I hit the gym a few times a week. Whether it’s half an hour on the cross-trainer, or a full session, I see this as my time. I’m not contactable on the phone or email, and I can zone out and tone up
• I’m still struggling with this one, but trying to drink more water. I know the difference it has made so far, so I have to keep on drinking
• I’ve always enjoyed looking good and taking care of myself, but I’ve let that slip recently. It’s amazing what a fresh coat of polish on your toenails or facial scrub can do. So I’m factoring some time to look after myself
• I need to feed my body with goodness. So instead of reaching for something sweet (which is very hard, as I have a cake business), I need to reach for an apple or a carrot.
Take some time out today and see what provision you need to feed your vision. I’d love to know what comes back to you.